More Inner Calm, Connection And Joy: An Effective Breathing Exercise

In this video I would like to share a breathing technique with you; you can join in right away to experience it. If we pay attention to conscious and deep breathing for just two minutes a day, it will have a spectacular effect! I know from my own experience.

I would advise you to use this breathing technique itself for at least 15 minutes. The longer you take the time to do this, the more impact it will have. In the East they also say: don’t you have time to meditate? Then do it for a long time! It yields so much to seek the silence within and to make the connection with our body. One way to do that is through a technique that is also called box breathing. You breathe in for five seconds, then hold your breath for five seconds, you breathe out for five seconds, and hold your breath for five seconds again. And do that again and again.

Breathing consciously and deeply for two minutes a day

The shaman who is my mentor says if you breathe consciously and deeply for at least two minutes a day, for example through an exercise like this, you will “stay out of your head”. And so brood and worry less, and live more through peace and connection. And that’s how I experience it myself. You make contact with your intuition and your heart much more easily. Of course your brain is important, you naturally need it, but we also have to listen to our gut feeling. How many times in your life have you felt that you should have listened more to your gut feeling? Have you done something in your life that you actually didn’t feel so good about, but you didn’t understand why? Afterwards, your gut feeling turned out to be right in the end.   

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In this video you’ll discover

  • A special breathing exercise and how this brings you closer to yourself
  • How you make contact with your intuition much more easily and how you can further develop it
  • What the three forms of intelligence are that we possess and how we can (learn to) use all three

Insight in this video

One of my business mentors always encouraged me to be quiet for half an hour and to focus on one question. To be silent and to make space so that the answers can come to mind. And that can only happen after those 30 minutes! Through the silence, peace, space and deep breathing, you make contact with your higher consciousness.

The mission in this video

Take 15 minutes, close your eyes and breathe according to the box breathing technique. You breathe in for five seconds, then hold your breath for five seconds, you breathe out for five seconds, and hold your breath for five seconds again. And do that again and again. Feel what happens in your body, allow everything that comes up. Maybe you feel joy or sadness; give everything space.

I’d like to hear from you what you’ve experienced, what insights you’ve received and how it went! I’ll see you in the seventh video.

Find love in every moment: what will that yield for you? Conclusion of this video series.

This is the last video from this series and so we have gone through a wonderful mini-training together! For that, I am grateful. I’d like to share one more ability that you can develop. I want to tell you that you can find love in every moment. In this video I’d like to tell you what that will bring you.

How can you find love and beauty in every moment? You have probably seen that as quotes on Instagram and other social media channels, but do you actually live it? For example, in moments when you are angry, how can you see love again in that situation? Even if it’s love for yourself! If you are angry, what is the learning moment there? If you are angry with someone, what are you healing in yourself? What opportunity is there in this situation? I certainly don’t mean to say you should let people walk over you; when you’re angry you feel a limit and it’s important to speak out. But you can always choose how you respond.

Are we going to meet each other?

I’m grateful that you’re walking this path and I hope that we’ll meet one day in person. Perhaps at one of the retreats or ceremonies that we regularly organise around Amsterdam. It’s a wonderful place, in safe small groups, to raise your awareness and make contact with your vision and the next steps in your life. I cordially invite you to that! If you prefer online support, then I have an online year program for you. All links are under this post.

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In this video you’ll discover

  • That you always have a choice in the way you look at something and the way you respond. Without losing sight of your own limits.
  • How you can see more beauty and love in everything that happens in your life
  • What we all can learn from the shamans
  • How we can meet each other in person

Insight in this video

Nelson Mandela said: “Nobody is born with hatred for a person with a different skin colour, background or belief. A person learns to hate, and if we can learn to hate then we can also learn to love. Because love is a more natural aspect for people than its opposite.” We can learn to see and allow more love and beauty in life. Without losing sight of your own limits, but by seeing what you want to learn or take from a situation or event. By choosing how you react and how you indicate your limits: angrily or harmoniously? In this way, we also positively influence the people around us.

This has been the last video of this series. I hope it has brought you a lot and I hope to meet you again online or in person!

For more information about the ceremonies that we organise, click here.

Being Successful And Experiencing Deep Fulfillment: ‘The Bigger Picture’

In this video, I’d like to help you train an ability. There are not many people who fully control this ability, but those who control it well are very successful and feel very fulfilled at the same time. In this video, I’ll tell you more about it.

For me, this is one of the most important skills in life. It involves the ability both to see what process you’re in and to act in the here-and-now. I’ll explain it to you. Consider entrepreneurs who are very successful in what they do. They’re often aware of the greater problems or challenges that arise in their life or business life, but don’t let them hold them back. They have the ability to stay focused on their goal and so they look beyond the challenge. This way they keep moving forward. They are solution-oriented, do what is necessary in the here-and-now and move forward again. While other people may experience panic, stagnate or throw in the towel when faced with a challenge.

People and situations like mirrors

Far less often do these successful entrepreneurs also see the deeper inner and more spiritual processes that play a role. What is going on and playing a role inside all of them. As soon as we understand that our life and what’s going on in it is a direct reflection of our inner world. If, as an entrepreneur, I hire an employee and a conflict arises, I can dismiss him and it will be resolved. But what I can also do is turn inwards and feel how this person mirrors something in myself. How this person reflects something going on inside me. I can ask myself why I have attracted this situation in my life and what I can learn from it. What is the gift in the present situation? And then what is the right way to handle it? In this video, I’ll explain extensively and clearly how this works!

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In this video you’ll discover

  • How our outer world is a direct reflection of our inner world
  • What we can do and learn during a conflict
  • Which ability few people possess which is the key to a very fulfilled life

Insight in this video

Realise that everything in your life is a direct reflection of your inner world. If you get bitten by a snake, you go to a doctor for the antidote. You go to a shaman for the antidote AND to find out why the snake bit you at all. What this situation reflects from within myself, what I can learn from it or what the gift is from this situation. Why life is presenting me this event. That is the thinking of the shamans, and looking at our lives in this way makes our consciousness grow.  

Questions to ask yourself

Consider the things that you don’t like in your life, that make you angry or sad, that you would like to see differently. What do these situations reflect in you? If everything is a reflection from your inner world, what does this event, situation or person mirror in you?

Is it therefore necessary to also act differently? Because it’s not just about becoming aware, seeing and understanding, but it’s also important to connect the right actions to it.

I look forward to seeing you in the eleventh and last video in this series!

The rare ability all great writers, artists and visionaries have – yet most people never develop (or just accidentally experience)

I want to invite you to make room in your life to develop a new ability. An ability that, once developed, will change your life forever. You have already seen this ability in others and you already have this ability in you! The only difference is whether you are aware or unaware of it. In this video, I’ll tell you more about it.

I am talking about the ability to make your goals, dreams and visions come to you. To make room for something larger than yourself. Great writers, visionaries and artists have not “thought up” their creations from their mind. They have made room for inspiration and a greater vision and have brought this into the world through their creativity. We all know the example of being in the shower and suddenly having a flurry of inspiration or a good idea. In the video I tell you how this ability develops further.

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In this video you’ll discover

  • What ability will change your life if you develop it more consciously
  • How you can let go of old identifications and patterns that no longer serve you
  • What you can do if you need extra help and guidance on your path

Insight in this video

What we have done so far in this video series is calm the fight-or-flight mechanism in our brain. By connecting deeper, through deep breathing and silence, with your body, your feelings and your emotions. In this way we make room for new inspiration, new ideas and new visions. I keep repeating that, because this doesn’t happen overnight. It’s something you’re training step by step. Of course there are many more ways, tools and aids for this, and if you need it, I have an extensive coaching program. A year program, where together we walk the path of awareness with the help of the medicine wheel as the shamans use it. A path on which we let go of old stories and identifications that no longer serve us. On which we heal old emotions that still hold us back in the here and now. So that we live more and more of our full potential.  

Questions to ask yourself

Take a moment to evaluate. Do you recognise what I am saying in the video? What are the moments this was already there in your life? When did you receive an idea or a vision and how? Perhaps in a dream, when you were in the bath or in the shower, or gardening? Perhaps on vacation or when you were meditating? You too have already had these experiences. If you learn to trust that you too have this ability, you will be able to develop it further.

Also try to pay attention to what you dream. Put a notepad next to your bed and write down the dreams so that you can actually remember them. 

I look forward to seeing you in the tenth video.

Evaluate And Open Yourself To A New Direction

It’s time to evaluate. We are already busy with a number of videos about breathing consciously, being in silence and turning inwards more. What has this brought you so far? Which processes have started? What insights have you had? In this video I want to look back with you to a specific period in your life. The period in which you achieved a goal, but it didn’t give you the satisfaction you were looking for. What can you still learn from it now?

I’d like to take a moment to evaluate. Especially the moment in your life in which you’ve achieved a goal. A goal you’ve been working towards for a long time, but when you achieved it, it didn’t give you the satisfaction you’d expected. When has this happened in your life? Can you then ask yourself if you had perhaps been barking up the wrong tree? Did I strive for something that might not be right for me? Or was it perhaps, unknowingly, for the wrong reasons? For example, if you are pursuing something or looking for something from the outside, because you do not experience it inside and therefore seek confirmation outside yourself. Or if you unconsciously want to prove something to the outside world through this.  If you reflect, when did this happen in your life? If insights arise as a result, consider them. Stay tuned into them. This way you can make a space for it and maybe you can go in a different direction from that experience.  

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In this video you’ll discover

  • Why it is important to occasionally take the time to evaluate
  • How you can distinguish whether your goals are authentic or unconsciously a way to compensate for something
  • How you make contact with your subconscious and the steps forward that will satisfy you.

Insight in this video

Only if we dare to let go of control and surrender more to the flow of life is there room for a greater vision than you could ever imagine. Not from (again) striving for something or performing, but from your heart. So that the goals you set in your life no longer come from wanting to compensate, prove or experience something that you do not feel inside.

Questions to ask yourself

Go back inside, in silence, with your eyes closed and with deep conscious breathing for at least 15 minutes. Connect with the part of yourself that is whole, that is love, that is beauty. What does that do to you? Then ask yourself: what am I here on earth for? What do I have to do here? What kind of insight then comes from within you? Whether or not you believe in the universe, or in god, or in spirit is not important; let the answer come from your subconscious.

Let me know how it went! I look forward to seeing you in the ninth video.

Begin now on a great new part of your life!

I’d like to share a story about the most extraordinary synchronicity ever in my life. I want to share what I learned from it and what you can learn from it. I also want to invite you to take the next step and make room for perhaps a great new phase of your life…

In an earlier video I already told you about the moment a friend took me to a shamanistic weekend with ceremonies. Where I could make contact with a higher consciousness and where my vision expanded enormously. On that day something special happened; that night I suddenly understood why my watch had stopped weeks before. That was not just a watch; that watch had long been a big goal for me to work towards. A precious Swiss Breitling watch that I had wanted from the age of sixteen or seventeen. And at some point I had achieved this goal, and my Breitling watch is dear to me. It is really very unusual that these watches break, but still it had stopped and there was no way I could get it going again.

Is it time for new steps in your life?

I called the Breitling store in London and they were very surprised, but of course I was allowed to return the watch for repair. I hadn’t done that until a few weeks later. That evening during the ceremony I had an insight. I suddenly understood that a new time had come for me in my life. My precious watch had already given me that message in a way, and during the ceremony I felt very strongly that I was going on a new path.

The next day I got the watch back, but it still didn’t work. So I sent it to the Breitling store in London. When it arrived they called me and told me that the watch was working fine and they did not need to repair it at all! They had done all possible tests, but couldn’t find anything that it wouldn’t do. The watch was serviced and then I got it back in good time. I thanked the universe for the message and it strengthened me to take the steps on my new path. When you watch this video, ask yourself: what is it the time for in your life right now?

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In this video you’ll discover

  • A personal story about a special synchronicity in my life
  • How you can make contact with your greater vision for the new phase of life that is now coming to you

Insight in this video

I want to invite you to explore the depth of your own soul, of your heart, your vision, your dream. The vision for your life and the vision for your business. What you want to achieve and what you want to heal in yourself: the old pain, the old stories and identifications that no longer serve you. And from there make contact with your greatest vision and dream. If you are looking for extra help with this, I invite you to come and follow us for a 3 or 5 day retreat with ceremonies based around Psilocybin Truffles (legal in the Netherlands). We regularly give this in Amsterdam in a safe setting with a small group of like-minded people.  If this resonates and you feel a calling from within, then you will find more information via this link.  

Questions to ask yourself

What is it the time for in your life right now? If everything so far was the first part of your life, and if everything that comes from now is the second part of your life, what does part two look like? If this is the turning point, what is the second part of your life about? What if this is the start of a new time period for you? What if this is the start of a breakthrough? You can decide what the second part of your life will be about. What is your vision for the next phase of your life?

More information about the retreats via this link.

I look forward to seeing you in the eighth video.

A Big Mistake We All Make In The West + Finding A Better Way

The biggest mistake people make in the West is that we want to do far too much in our lives. This has become so normal that we no longer even see that this is very unnatural. We set the bar high and put ourselves under pressure in all kinds of areas of our lives. In this video I’ll tell you more about it and explain how things can be done differently.

If we are constantly busy with goals, targets and performance in our lives, we put a lot of pressure on ourselves and our body. We often achieve these goals and are then very successful and this can certainly give us great satisfaction. But I see so many people around me who are extremely tired at the same time. I see many people where their feelings of love, pleasure, joy and enjoyment have been subconsciously suppressed because they are so under pressure and busy performing. What’s the reason, deep down, that we want to achieve these goals, that we constantly look for more and better?

What’s your real motivation and drive?

If we are constantly busy, then we don’t have to stand still either, then we don’t have to make contact with what is going on deep inside. In this way, we partly leave ourselves. The shamans who have trained me radiate deep joy; they have developed that ability and they know they need not be more than that. They don’t have to compensate for anything any more, they just have to Be. When I regained the ability to simply be myself, I had much more inner peace. At the same time I also lost a lot of motivation to put things out into the world for a short period. That was because so much of my motivation was because I wanted to prove myself. Partly because I was bullied in the past, I wanted to show the world and myself what I had in me. When I no longer needed that, I felt so much expansion and space. And from there new motivation began to grow, from a completely different place, from my heart. Which made me feel deep joy again. In the video I’ll tell you more about it and tell you my personal story.

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In this video you’ll discover

  • What the biggest mistake that many people in the West make is, a mistake that we no longer even see is a mistake
  • What I mean by integrating spirituality, performing, and contributing to a better world
  • How I came to experience much more joy in my life

Insight in this video

It’s not about being a monk and just meditating on a mountain top. It’s also not about just making money, such as on Wall Street in New York. And however beautiful it is, just being busy with charities and saving whales is also not what I mean. It’s about integrating these three aspects: spirituality, performing, and contributing to a better world. If we integrate all three of these aspects into our lives, we will live more of our full potential! We integrate these parts if we dare to let go of control, surrender to everything that presents itself in our lives, and then choose how we want to behave and what decisions are needed for that. By regularly being silent, making room to turn inwards, breathe deeply and be with what presents itself. These can be emotions, feelings, insights or more peace. 

Questions to ask yourself

What have you been holding on to for far too long? Close your eyes and take the time to feel: what is it that you can let go? Something that, if you let it go, makes room for something new. For a bigger vision. Letting go is the first step, and from the space that then arises, a new vision can come to you.

I look forward to seeing you in the sixth video

Are you living up to your full potential? Your body knows the answer

In a previous video I told you that your business can only grow to the level where you, consciously or unconsciously, feel comfortable because you can control it. What if you fully surrendered and stopped trying to control things? Then your business can grow beyond what you thought possible. And this naturally applies to every area of your life. In this video, I’ll tell you more about it.

Ask yourself where you are trying to control a situation too much. This means that you as a person and your life can only grow to the level at which the fight-or-flight mechanism in your brain is triggered. If that happens, you will, unwittingly, want to get away from it because you experience fear. For example, ask yourself: what if you have twice as many employees working for you? Does that evoke an uncomfortable feeling or certain emotions? Do you feel discomfort in your body or your stomach? Or are you really entirely relaxed with that idea? Be fully honest with yourself. It’s not about what your mind thinks about it, it’s about how your body reacts to it. And taking the space to be silent and to turn inwards so that you can make contact with it again. If you experience fear with that question (or a similar question about, for example, money, a relationship or large business projects that you dream of), then you have not yet mastered that piece of potential. In the video (and in the text below) I’ll explain what you can do to grow to your next level.

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In this video you’ll discover

  • How you can heal a piece of yourself when someone triggers you
  • The importance of letting go of control and surrendering yourself to everything that presents itself in your life (and how you do that)
  • Why we do not grow further at a certain moment as a person, in our business or in our lives. And how you break through that.
  • Why breathing deeply into the stomach is so important if you want to grow to the next level

Insight in this video

If we develop the ability to make contact with the body and thus know where our fears may still be holding us back, then we know at what level we organise our lives. Being aware of this ensures that the fear will no longer unconsciously stop you, but that you can make a conscious decision to set your goals. Even if you feel fear! It calms the reactive brain from which your fight-or-flight mechanism operates, and so you reach the higher consciousness that goes beyond that. This way, you can grow to your next level.

Questions to ask yourself

What goals do I not set that I would really like to set deep in my heart, because I experience fear? What if I would earn ten times as much money as I do now? What if I have twice as many employees working for me? What if I put down that big project that I’ve secretly dreamed of for years? What if you owned two more companies? What if you get a business loan and start your first, second or third company? Take the time to be silent, take a deep breath into the stomach and feel how your body responds to these questions. Choose the questions that apply to you. Do you feel tension or an uncomfortable feeling somewhere? Allow anything that comes up next, even if they are emotions.

I look forward to seeing you in video five

Release Yourself From Fears, Convictions, And Patterns That No Longer Serve You

Have there been moments in your life that you have not gone into? To put it another way: that you did not show up? In this video, I’ll help you to sense whether you’re still being held back by fear and how you can transform that.

Were there moments in your life that you, perhaps unconsciously, have left behind? A moment when a chance or new opportunity presented itself in your life? Perhaps because it felt uncomfortable to deal with it? What chances or opportunities did you leave behind in your business because of fear? Which beautiful woman or man did you never dare to ask out? Afraid of what might happen? Many people live life in a reactive manner.

Growing to the next level

But when we develop ourselves personally, we learn not to let ourselves be stopped by stress or anxiety about what might happen. The power lies in the ability to regularly be silent, to close your eyes and turn inwards, and to be attentive to what presents itself. To feel, process and learn from events so that we can grow to the next level. In this video, I’ll tell you all about it.

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In this video you’ll discover

  • That there are 3 types of responses and which one do you choose?
  • That your fears can be avoided, but that they do not disappear. And how you’re going to see what is behind the fear so that it will no longer stop you in life
  • How you can free yourself from old pains, beliefs and patterns that no longer serve you

Insight in this video

Realise that a fear comes from an old, unhealed part of ourselves. If we give that unhealed part space and heal with it, then that fear will not stop you any more.

Questions to ask yourself

Where have you avoided an opportunity in your life? What did you not go into out of fear? Is there something you’ve avoided for a while because it didn’t feel comfortable?
Make room for silence, breathe deeply into your stomach and consider these questions.

I look forward to seeing you in the fourth video

The Key To Business Growth: From Control To Surrender

I want to talk to you about learning to let go of control. We think we have control in our lives and in our business, but I learned that control is an illusion. We never have real control over events in our lives. Surrender is the key to true growth in your company. I’ll tell you everything about it in this second video.

A few years ago my business mentor, the man with whom I set up my second company, said to me: “Your business can only grow as far as you feel you can control it.” For example, if we’re afraid of losing control when we have to guide multiple employees or when we’re making a lot of profit, if we’re afraid that anything can go wrong, the company will not grow beyond that point.  Because, consciously or unconsciously, we want to keep control.  But there’s no such thing as “having control” — it’s an illusion. We have no real control over the events in our lives. When you stop trying to control it all and can completely surrender to what is presented to you in every moment, your business (and your life) can grow and expand. Then it can grow beyond what you previously thought possible.

What many business coaches say, but what I don’t believe in…

What’s often said by business coaches is that you must learn to control your mind so that you are not guided by your fears. I do not believe that controlling your mind is the way to do this. I believe that the way to do this is to surrender and learn to be completely present in the here and now. To have deep faith in life and be in connection with your own heart. If we are well-connected to our heart, then we no longer have the need to control because we no longer experience those fears. In this video I’ll give you personal examples from my business and life and of how I learned (the hard way) to let go of control.

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In this video you’ll discover

  • The biggest mistake I made on my path of personal development and how you can prevent it
  • How you get from control to surrender and how that benefits your business
  • Personal experiences in my company and in my life that taught me to surrender
  • Why you don’t have to learn to control your mind, like many business coaches say. And that you can never fully control your mind.

Insight in this video

You can let go of control by seeing that control does not exist, that you have no real control over the events in your life. Learn to turn inwards and to be and stay attentive to what presents itself in every moment. To feel if you live from fear, to investigate whether there is an old identity that you hold on to and through which you have made certain decisions in your company or life. Are you living your deepest truth? Do you live through faith and therefore from a place of abundance?

Questions to ask yourself

Are you living your deepest truth? Do you have faith in life? Will you let your heart show you the way? What presents itself in your life at the moment? And do you say yes to it? Can you surrender to life?

Make room for silence and to turn inwards and let the answers come from deep inside. No matter how long it takes for you to find the answers.

I look forward to seeing you in the third video