Navigating Spirituality: How to Handle Conflict with Others

One of the strongest evolutionary patterns of the mind is the need for safety.

If we can wrap our heads around something, if we understand the meaning of something (or lack thereof), our thoughts can settle. Meaning is assigned, and we can relax into it.

One of the most uncomfortable situations we can experience is not knowing.

Not knowing the meaning of something. Remaining in a state of emptiness.

When we engage in spiritual work, our perception shifts. This is its purpose – to attain a new perspective.

However, the greatest peril in spirituality lies in hastily assigning meaning. When we hastily attach meaning to something, we weave a new narrative around it. Instead of discovering the ultimate Truth, we become ensnared in a fresh narrative. One that might be improved, but is still not the Truth.

When two individuals meet and conflict arises, we swiftly accept our own version of the truth.

One person holds their own version of the truth, while the other person has their own interpretation.

Conflict always presents an opportunity for learning – learning about ourselves, understanding our role in the situation.

And also for the other person to gain self-awareness, to recognize their role in this.

For both individuals, it’s a chance to comprehend each other.

Our task is to honor our own perspective, but most importantly, to take responsibility for our role in every conflict.

During conflicts, the challenge lies in setting aside our own need to be right, to be seen and heard, and truly opening our ears, minds, and hearts to understand the other person.

And if we manage to do so, we discover harmony.

This harmony is the ultimate goal, and only after attaining it, the process concludes.


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