A DREAM COME TRUE & A NEW BEGINNING

*Big Announcement!*

NEVER GIVE UP ON YOUR DREAMS!

Today, I am thrilled to announce that, as of April 1st (no joke 😉), I will be the owner of 11 hectares (27 acres) of land in a town called “Gasselte,” in the middle of Drenthe, The Netherlands. 

On the land, there is a house and an additional holiday home, and it is here where we will be inviting people to go into nature so they can look within, heal, and return to their own nature.

Read on for more about the story!

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RESTLESSNESS v.s. PRESENCE

“I was trying so hard to not waste my time, but in a way I was wasting my life.”

– Jesse van der Velde

For many years I was restless. My mind would never stop. Always thinking about “what’s next”. “How can I grow further”. Both as a person, as well as in my business. I would go to the sauna with my wife Marjolijn, and I would still constantly be thinking, creating, visualizing. Like I couldn’t waste any minute. Truth is, I was totally wasting those beautiful moments.

About 6 years ago I started to see this pattern. I saw that I had achieved most of the goals that I had, but I was still restless. Struggling to become silent within myself. I started to dislike that reality a lot. I got frustrated with my own restlessness. Frustration + restlessness aren’t a good combination, I can tell you that!

This was during the time my son got born, my first child. I would be with him and I would still be thinking about business. I knew I wasn’t present with him. But holding him, made me think. It was like he was teaching me. Slowly teaching me to just be. His vulnerability as a baby. So pure, so authentic. Untouched. What a beautiful teacher.

It got me to re-think the concept of time. My concept of time always was: don’t waste it. Be productive. But with that, I was wasting beautiful moments in my life. Where I wasn’t truly present. Where I couldn’t just “be”.

I was trying so hard to not waste my time, but in a way I was wasting my life. What a big contradiction.

The first time I took a plant medicine about 4 years ago, the medicine was showing me this restlessness I still had. Even in the ceremony, singing and sitting around the fire on Saturday evening, I felt restless, lol! Thinking: “what do I DO with this”, “how do I FIX this” (this being the thing I was shown by the medicine, in that moment). Slowly I started to learn, that especially in ceremony, there’s nothing to “do”. Just be.

And isn’t that true for life in general?

Isn’t life so much about finding that ability to just “be”?

To be completely one with the moment. With yourself. With your heart. With your emotions in that particular moment. Even being OK with the emotions you don’t like?

That to me, is true presence.

It is being OK with whatever is.

Presence is being OK with whatever is. It is tested in the circumstances and emotions you don’t like. Giving them your breath, your full attention. Being there fully in the moment, with all that is, standing strong like a warrior but vulnerable with your heart open at the same time, is presence.

– Jesse van der Velde

Life is almost like is a test. Constantly providing circumstances to test us. Not for the goal of testing us, but it being a test as a result of the fact that we still haven’t learned!

It isn’t until you accept that all that lives within you, like restlessness was living within me, can be seen as a test, that you can play the game of fixing it.

And that fixing is done through giving anything that lives inside you, your breath. Breathing to it. Giving it your full attention. So you give it space.

Because from that space, you can find a new perspective. And heal it.

A new perspective can never be found through ignoring something, overruling it with our mind, let alone by “doing”. And that is what we’ve learned through Personal Development: to act in spite of fear, to do regardless of what you feel. If you want to be successful, yes, you need to do it that way. But if you want to be happy, whole, if you want to know who you are, you have to take time to be fully present with yourself and your feelings. You have to be with what lives inside of you. You have to look at it, feel it, research it. So you can then find a new perspective. That is healing. A new perspective.

Healing is about finding a new perspective.

– Jesse van der Velde

I found the way to heal my restlessness.

And through that, I found presence. Presence with my family. Finding the ability to fully be with them, not thinking about work. Not thinking about what’s next. Enjoying the endless energy, creativity, love and joy of my kids.

Because enjoying the moment, is what life is about. And through that, no time is wasted, ever.

The 1 profound question every entrepreneur should repeatedly ask themselves

The question every entrepreneur should repeatedly ask themselves is:

WHY am I truly in business?

Business is a spiritual game.

It asks everything of you, every day. It asks you to face every fear, every struggle, every doubt, to build your dream.

Every entrepreneur needs to understand that every single thing happening inside your organisation is a direct REFLECTION of you and what lives inside of you.

Every challenge, every opportunity you see or not see, take or not take, every person you hire or leaves your team.

It is all a reflection of the person you have become, or need to become, to build your dream.

Entrepreneurship is an inner path of becoming.

And the main question and main driver is: WHY am I truly in business?

Once you’ve made it to financial freedom, then what?

Most people then keep going for more and more.

More and more.

Unconsciously still trying to fill that need they couldn’t find within themselves.

The inner path is understanding that part of you and going beyond it.

What are you truly after?

When you die, what is it that you’d like to leave behind?

What is going to live after you die?

We live in a time where anything is possible, and once you live that truth, what do you wish to create that serves a bigger purpose?

That is no easy question to answer.

But the journey to finding out what that is to you is not only worth walking.

It is why you truly became an entrepreneur in the first place.

It is now time to sit down. Quiet your mind. Don’t think.

Set an intention to find your why.

Allow something greater than you to give you an inspiration you might never have had.

For that to happen, get your mind out of the way and feel.

This is your time.

Go live your truth.

Why The Entire “Control Your Mind” Theory is WRONG and How to Truly Deal With Fear

Could everything you’ve learned about controlling your mind to date, be wrong?

“If you want to be successful, you have to control your mind. “

… is what they say.

But any person telling you that isn’t seeing the full picture yet.

Because wanting to CONTROL the mind always comes from the fear of losing control.

And fear is never a good place to live from.

Humans want to be FREE.

The experience of FREEDOM is what we’re truly after.

And that freedom is NEVER found by trying to control the mind.

Listening to our heart is the PRACTICE of SURRENDERING to our feelings.

Breath deep. Let go.

Living FREE comes from the ability to SURRENDER.

Be smart. Use your mind what it’s for. But don’t try to control fear.

Let your HEART inform you on your path. In every decision. In every moment.

That is where freedom is found.

More Inner Calm, Connection And Joy: An Effective Breathing Exercise

In this video I would like to share a breathing technique with you; you can join in right away to experience it. If we pay attention to conscious and deep breathing for just two minutes a day, it will have a spectacular effect! I know from my own experience.

I would advise you to use this breathing technique itself for at least 15 minutes. The longer you take the time to do this, the more impact it will have. In the East they also say: don’t you have time to meditate? Then do it for a long time! It yields so much to seek the silence within and to make the connection with our body. One way to do that is through a technique that is also called box breathing. You breathe in for five seconds, then hold your breath for five seconds, you breathe out for five seconds, and hold your breath for five seconds again. And do that again and again.

Breathing consciously and deeply for two minutes a day

The shaman who is my mentor says if you breathe consciously and deeply for at least two minutes a day, for example through an exercise like this, you will “stay out of your head”. And so brood and worry less, and live more through peace and connection. And that’s how I experience it myself. You make contact with your intuition and your heart much more easily. Of course your brain is important, you naturally need it, but we also have to listen to our gut feeling. How many times in your life have you felt that you should have listened more to your gut feeling? Have you done something in your life that you actually didn’t feel so good about, but you didn’t understand why? Afterwards, your gut feeling turned out to be right in the end.   

Watch the video below

In this video you’ll discover

  • A special breathing exercise and how this brings you closer to yourself
  • How you make contact with your intuition much more easily and how you can further develop it
  • What the three forms of intelligence are that we possess and how we can (learn to) use all three


Insight in this video

One of my business mentors always encouraged me to be quiet for half an hour and to focus on one question. To be silent and to make space so that the answers can come to mind. And that can only happen after those 30 minutes! Through the silence, peace, space and deep breathing, you make contact with your higher consciousness.

The mission in this video

Take 15 minutes, close your eyes and breathe according to the box breathing technique. You breathe in for five seconds, then hold your breath for five seconds, you breathe out for five seconds, and hold your breath for five seconds again. And do that again and again. Feel what happens in your body, allow everything that comes up. Maybe you feel joy or sadness; give everything space.

I’d like to hear from you what you’ve experienced, what insights you’ve received and how it went! I’ll see you in the seventh video.

Find love in every moment: what will that yield for you? Conclusion of this video series.

This is the last video from this series and so we have gone through a wonderful mini-training together! For that, I am grateful. I’d like to share one more ability that you can develop. I want to tell you that you can find love in every moment. In this video I’d like to tell you what that will bring you.

How can you find love and beauty in every moment? You have probably seen that as quotes on Instagram and other social media channels, but do you actually live it? For example, in moments when you are angry, how can you see love again in that situation? Even if it’s love for yourself! If you are angry, what is the learning moment there? If you are angry with someone, what are you healing in yourself? What opportunity is there in this situation? I certainly don’t mean to say you should let people walk over you; when you’re angry you feel a limit and it’s important to speak out. But you can always choose how you respond.

Are we going to meet each other?

I’m grateful that you’re walking this path and I hope that we’ll meet one day in person. Perhaps at one of the retreats or ceremonies that we regularly organise around Amsterdam. It’s a wonderful place, in safe small groups, to raise your awareness and make contact with your vision and the next steps in your life. I cordially invite you to that! If you prefer online support, then I have an online year program for you. All links are under this post.

Watch the video below

In this video you’ll discover

  • That you always have a choice in the way you look at something and the way you respond. Without losing sight of your own limits.
  • How you can see more beauty and love in everything that happens in your life
  • What we all can learn from the shamans
  • How we can meet each other in person


Insight in this video

Nelson Mandela said: “Nobody is born with hatred for a person with a different skin colour, background or belief. A person learns to hate, and if we can learn to hate then we can also learn to love. Because love is a more natural aspect for people than its opposite.” We can learn to see and allow more love and beauty in life. Without losing sight of your own limits, but by seeing what you want to learn or take from a situation or event. By choosing how you react and how you indicate your limits: angrily or harmoniously? In this way, we also positively influence the people around us.

This has been the last video of this series. I hope it has brought you a lot and I hope to meet you again online or in person!

For more information about the ceremonies that we organise, click here.

Being Successful And Experiencing Deep Fulfillment: ‘The Bigger Picture’

In this video, I’d like to help you train an ability. There are not many people who fully control this ability, but those who control it well are very successful and feel very fulfilled at the same time. In this video, I’ll tell you more about it.

For me, this is one of the most important skills in life. It involves the ability both to see what process you’re in and to act in the here-and-now. I’ll explain it to you. Consider entrepreneurs who are very successful in what they do. They’re often aware of the greater problems or challenges that arise in their life or business life, but don’t let them hold them back. They have the ability to stay focused on their goal and so they look beyond the challenge. This way they keep moving forward. They are solution-oriented, do what is necessary in the here-and-now and move forward again. While other people may experience panic, stagnate or throw in the towel when faced with a challenge.

People and situations like mirrors

Far less often do these successful entrepreneurs also see the deeper inner and more spiritual processes that play a role. What is going on and playing a role inside all of them. As soon as we understand that our life and what’s going on in it is a direct reflection of our inner world. If, as an entrepreneur, I hire an employee and a conflict arises, I can dismiss him and it will be resolved. But what I can also do is turn inwards and feel how this person mirrors something in myself. How this person reflects something going on inside me. I can ask myself why I have attracted this situation in my life and what I can learn from it. What is the gift in the present situation? And then what is the right way to handle it? In this video, I’ll explain extensively and clearly how this works!

Watch the video below

In this video you’ll discover

  • How our outer world is a direct reflection of our inner world
  • What we can do and learn during a conflict
  • Which ability few people possess which is the key to a very fulfilled life


Insight in this video

Realise that everything in your life is a direct reflection of your inner world. If you get bitten by a snake, you go to a doctor for the antidote. You go to a shaman for the antidote AND to find out why the snake bit you at all. What this situation reflects from within myself, what I can learn from it or what the gift is from this situation. Why life is presenting me this event. That is the thinking of the shamans, and looking at our lives in this way makes our consciousness grow.  

Questions to ask yourself

Consider the things that you don’t like in your life, that make you angry or sad, that you would like to see differently. What do these situations reflect in you? If everything is a reflection from your inner world, what does this event, situation or person mirror in you?

Is it therefore necessary to also act differently? Because it’s not just about becoming aware, seeing and understanding, but it’s also important to connect the right actions to it.

I look forward to seeing you in the eleventh and last video in this series!

The rare ability all great writers, artists and visionaries have – yet most people never develop (or just accidentally experience)

I want to invite you to make room in your life to develop a new ability. An ability that, once developed, will change your life forever. You have already seen this ability in others and you already have this ability in you! The only difference is whether you are aware or unaware of it. In this video, I’ll tell you more about it.

I am talking about the ability to make your goals, dreams and visions come to you. To make room for something larger than yourself. Great writers, visionaries and artists have not “thought up” their creations from their mind. They have made room for inspiration and a greater vision and have brought this into the world through their creativity. We all know the example of being in the shower and suddenly having a flurry of inspiration or a good idea. In the video I tell you how this ability develops further.

Watch the video below

In this video you’ll discover

  • What ability will change your life if you develop it more consciously
  • How you can let go of old identifications and patterns that no longer serve you
  • What you can do if you need extra help and guidance on your path


Insight in this video

What we have done so far in this video series is calm the fight-or-flight mechanism in our brain. By connecting deeper, through deep breathing and silence, with your body, your feelings and your emotions. In this way we make room for new inspiration, new ideas and new visions. I keep repeating that, because this doesn’t happen overnight. It’s something you’re training step by step. Of course there are many more ways, tools and aids for this, and if you need it, I have an extensive coaching program. A year program, where together we walk the path of awareness with the help of the medicine wheel as the shamans use it. A path on which we let go of old stories and identifications that no longer serve us. On which we heal old emotions that still hold us back in the here and now. So that we live more and more of our full potential.  

Questions to ask yourself

Take a moment to evaluate. Do you recognise what I am saying in the video? What are the moments this was already there in your life? When did you receive an idea or a vision and how? Perhaps in a dream, when you were in the bath or in the shower, or gardening? Perhaps on vacation or when you were meditating? You too have already had these experiences. If you learn to trust that you too have this ability, you will be able to develop it further.

Also try to pay attention to what you dream. Put a notepad next to your bed and write down the dreams so that you can actually remember them. 

I look forward to seeing you in the tenth video.